Some Things to Learn About Bottom Dysphoria
Trans men do not need a penis to be a man. Just as trans women do not need a vagina to be a woman. At the end of the day, someone’s sex does not determine their gender. But that doesn’t mean trans people don’t get dysphoric about what’s in their pants, so please don’t ask them what’s in them.
Bottom dysphoria is something that is often not talked about enough in the trans community or in general for that matter. As a way to raise awareness I created a shoot based on my dysphoria when it comes to my genitals. If I’m being honest, this shoot genuinely made me dysphoric afterwards, but my art is meant to be real, so I’m using it as an opportunity to create.
As far as my personal experience, I still hate looking at myself in the mirror if I look too long because it just reminds me that I’m still in the wrong body. Yes, I’m not as dysphoric because of testosterone and top surgery, but I have yet to get bottom surgery and I probably never will. I’m gonna be as open and honest about things as I can on here because I want to be a source for information. There are a lot of risks I’m not really willing to take when it comes to bottom surgery on top of expenses. Later down the line if things change, my mind might change. But for right now it’s been hard for me to deal with the fact that I’ll never actually have a dick. It makes me feel like less of a man. To any trans man reading this, it doesn’t matter what surgery you’ve had, thats not what makes you a man. But I know you can relate to the feeling of not feeling like a good enough one.
Testosterone has definitely helped significantly when it comes to my bottom dysphoria. Not many people really talk about bottom growth but if I’m gonna be honest, it’s pretty cool. The clit essentially gets larger and forms almost a small penis when taking testosterone. It’ll continue to grow but at the first couple months it may be somewhat “uncomfortable” especially when brushed up against something. It’s a part of the changes of testosterone that a lot of people experience but don’t talk about. Some people like it, others don’t. Personally, I’m a fan.
Packing is also something I do to help with my dysphoria. Feel free to check out some of the following websites for packers that can help that I recommend:
When it comes to other people I have a hard time doing basic things like going to pee in the mens room. Having to pray that a stall is open is the most terrifying thing especially if you’re somewhere you’ve never been so you don’t know if someone will say something or ask you questions.
People will ask me “Do you still have a vagina?”, “Did you get THE surgery?” It’s always “Oh, I’m just wondering” or “I’m curious” but it’s actually extremely invasive and never something any of us really wanna answer :))))
PSA:
Don’t ask trans people what’s in our pants
Like genuinely, would you ask a cis straight man what his dick looked like? I’d honestly hope not. So just don’t do it with trans people and leave us alone with those questions. If you do want information about what’s in my pants, I’m an open book when it comes to my resources online on my website or idk google. I hope this was somewhat resourceful for you, if you have any other questions feel free to contact me via email at samgiardina9@gmail.com!
